Your conscience is the measure of the honesty of your selfishness. Listen to it carefully." ~ Richard Bach
Many people label "selfish" a bad thing. Have you ever abandoned your own needs in order to not be "selfish", and then ended up feeling you went against yourself?
Why not take on "selfish" as a healthy stance that attends to taking care of Self.
When you selfishly guard your life force, you stay filled up on the inside and you ultimately have more to offer others.
Are you trained to not be "selfish"? Do you experience pangs of guilt when you need to say "no" to your partner or friend and "yes" to your personal needs?
If you've learned to be super responsible, a caretaker or have co-dependent tendencies, taking care of Self is often a stretch. It redirects the outside focus of attention and points you inside to your most precious gift, yourself! When you embrace the light side of "selfish", you will experience the luxury of valuing yourself. You will find ease in saying Yes to you.
Tools to shift you to the light side of "selfish":
Breaking any long held pattern feels awkward, uncomfortable and is sometimes anxiety provoking. This is just the old pattern attempting to survive. Have the courage to do it anyway. Know you are heading in the direction of loyalty to yourself.
When you selfishly guard your life force, you stay filled up on the inside and you ultimately have more to offer others.
Are you trained to not be "selfish"? Do you experience pangs of guilt when you need to say "no" to your partner or friend and "yes" to your personal needs?
If you've learned to be super responsible, a caretaker or have co-dependent tendencies, taking care of Self is often a stretch. It redirects the outside focus of attention and points you inside to your most precious gift, yourself! When you embrace the light side of "selfish", you will experience the luxury of valuing yourself. You will find ease in saying Yes to you.
Tools to shift you to the light side of "selfish":
- Make a list of all the things you would be doing if you stopped labeling them selfish.Turn each one around and ask yourself: "Does this "selfish" action really mean I'm taking care of me? Is it loving, is it kind, is it necessary for me to honor me?
- Endeavor to take one new action that you have considered to be selfish. Work with the guilty nudges that arise as you break this pattern. Rinse and repeat.
- Daily affirmation: "I am responsible for the choices I make.
Breaking any long held pattern feels awkward, uncomfortable and is sometimes anxiety provoking. This is just the old pattern attempting to survive. Have the courage to do it anyway. Know you are heading in the direction of loyalty to yourself.
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